Finding Your Match: A Slightly Sarcastic Guide to Effort, Openness, and Self-Care

In the world of finding your perfect match, whether through a matchmaker, online or just wandering around in the wild, there’s one truth as clear as the sky is blue: You’ve got to put in the effort. Yes, that means both physically and energetically. So roll up your sleeves, because we’re diving in.

First, let’s talk effort. You know, the kind where you actually have to interact with people (shocking, I know). This isn’t about lounging in your pajamas, scrolling endlessly through profiles. You need to get out there, meet people, and – here’s a novel idea – actually talk to them. And while we’re at it, stop slapping labels and assumptions on everyone you meet. That guy who’s a few inches shorter than your dream man? Surprise, surprise, he might just be your intellectual soulmate. And hey, if he’s not, maybe he knows someone who is. Did you know that about four clients a year end up matchmaking their matches with friends or family? Talk about networking!

Now, onto the concept of ‘types’. Here’s a thought: ditch it. Broaden your horizons. Your physical type might not be your intellectual type, and vice versa. Life’s too short to pass on someone because they don’t fit into your neatly defined box of ‘tall, dark, and handsome’ or ‘blonde and bubbly’.

And let's debunk a myth: your future spouse isn’t likely slumped over a bar at 2 AM. High-value individuals are probably not shaking it on the dance floor every night. They might be at a happy hour, so don’t rule that out.

Being open energetically is like sending out a bat signal to potential matches. Say yes more, smile (even if it's just in your mind), and exude that approachable vibe. No one wants to chat up someone who's sporting a permanent scowl. Remember, it's not just about looking open; it’s about feeling open too.

Now onto self-care and confidence. This isn’t just about hitting the gym or eating right (although those are great). It's about doing what makes you feel like the best version of yourself. For instance, I love long hair. Mine doesn’t quite cooperate, so I bought some and voila! Instant mood booster. Whether it’s lashes, nails, or just a killer outfit, do what makes you feel good. Confidence is key, and it shows.

A note on style: be yourself. If stilettos aren’t your thing, don't force yourself into them for the sake of a date. Comfort can be stylish, too. And please, for the love of all that is good, don’t copy someone else’s style. Originality scores more points.

Finding your match is a mix of being proactive, open, and true to yourself. It's not just about physical appearances but also about the energy you radiate. So smile, be open, and embrace the best version of yourself. Your match might just be around the corner, probably not at a nightclub, but maybe, just maybe, at the next happy hour or in the email from your matchmaker.