When it comes to finding your Soulmate – be the better half.

When it comes to dating and finding love do you just feel like you’re living in a Greek mythology book? As if you were you split in two by Zeus and are now forever roaming the universe to find your other half?

 Is it your other half or better half, or just a piece of a half that you’re looking for? Is there a Jerry Maguire out there, ready to “complete you”?!  I don’t think so. Nice try.

As Valentine’s Day rolls around, are you finding yourself planning for another Friday night alone with Hallmark movies and a glass (ok, bottle of wine) and a Costco-size bag of Doritos. It may be time to look a little deeper.

 Here are some of my best insights from matching clients for over a decade:

Work on yourself first. Really dig in deep and see where you could be more open, flexible, spontaneous, outgoing, and curious.

Be vulnerable. Take turns trying an activity that your partner loves and try something new together. Allowing your partner to see how you handle failure or being uncomfortable builds connection.

It’s not going to be easy, but it shouldn’t feel like work. Give the relationship a chance but know when to let it go.

Seek a partner who wants to do the same things but not all the same things, all the time. Variety is the spice of life. If you have something you can enjoy doing together and apart, you’ll find you will have more to discuss when you get together.

Be willing! Take a chance on someone unexpected or “not your type”. No one will check off all your boxes perfectly. People become more attractive the more you get to know them and love them, don’t judge based on first impressions. But also, be sure to make a good first impression!

“You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.” - Sam Keen